Few people in your life celebrate your accomplishments, but they’re QUICK to notice and bring the attention to your failures? How sad.
Could it be jealousy? Insecurity on their part? Immaturity?
I definitely believe that honest emotional and esteem support impacts your performance — for good. Humans need an extended hand more often than not. A word of encouragement, a simple “You’ll be fine, you can do this” makes a difference. But, there are also times that, when receiving too little support, a person may want to work harder just to prove everybody wrong. That accomplishment to me has a better taste in the end. You appreciate it and treasure it more because you did it all on your own, against all odds.
For me, it’s safe to say that I’ve never had a great deal of support in my life, but the one or two people always there for me have been more than enough. I need to get motivation from somewhere after all! Sugarcoating and fake praises don’t do it for me; but having people doubt me and judge me does. I can smell a fake miles away, so if you don’t have anything honest to say I rather you say I “can’t do it” and you’ll be showing support unknowingly. It makes me feel invincible.
The funny thing is (and it is a so well-known never-ending story) when you finally reach the top, everybody wants a piece of you. But you remember, oh yes you damn well do remember, who’s always been there. And I can’t wait to taste it all.