Why walk for charity?

I know a lot of people wonder what “the point” of it is. Well, I can speak only for myself and I can say that I, too, was unsure of the impact that walking for a cause may have. But one day I was able to understand; it raises awareness and money for research. It helps people heal wounds. Thousands of people walking makes a public statement that some people are going through some serious suffering and it needs attention.

What’s great about these charity walks is that it is not a race and people of all shapes can join in. Even if someone just wants to walk the miles for health reasons, it’s all good. They’re still be contributing to the whole point in some way.

This Saturday (today) in New York City I am walking to help end Lupus, the (sometimes deadly) autoimmune disease that is destroying the lives of so many people.

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I had been trying to do the walk for a while and today I will finally have the chance! To me this means a lot because my sister had Lupus. We — her family — didn’t really know too much about it when she was diagnosed and now I kind of feel a responsibility and passion to spread the word. My sister went through a lot of pain, physically and psychologically, and I’d really hate to see others suffer for lack of information or lack of good treatment. So doing this walk is a way for me to say I feel your pain, I am with you, together we’ll overcome. It’s the least I can do.

A bit higher

I think I know where I’m heading, I think I know what I’m doing. Life’s so (not) funny. It tricks you right in your face. It gets in the way; it gets out of the way. It comes around; it goes around… This shit’s already been said in Alanis Morissette’s Ironic, but still…it never ceases to amaze me.
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That being said, with the uncertain amount of time we have on Earth, and all that is left to explore, I think it’s OK to aim a bit higher. Go places! Dream big, and take some f*cking risks! Unless we try, how can we ever know?

US Senate: You’re Fired!

Gabrielle GiffordsIt’s clear to me that if members of the U.S. Senate refuse to change the laws to reduce gun violence, then we need to change the members of the U.S. Senate.

Very, very well said, Gabrielle!!!!

Drug-tests and all sorts of skepticism against people on welfare, but no background checks for the gun-nuts. Man, does that make sense or what?! Such a simple, COMMON SENSE law, yet the other half didn’t help pass it. What really baffles me is that, if so many innocent angels couldn’t shake these Republican’s hearts, then what would? One has to be reeeeally evil not to be affected…

As Giffords said, it is time to change the Senate!

Why we need you to be a parent

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Never underestimate the power of parental guidance.

I don’t have any kids, so why would I know anything about parenting, right? I know a lot, actually. I know the difference between right and wrong. Very simple, yet people seem to struggle differentiating the two nowadays. I’m smart enough not to bring a child under unstable circumstances. I know that, to really be an exemplary mother, I’d have to pretty much devote my whole life to my children and I’m not ready for that. Young mothers today don’t think about the consequences. (The same goes for young men, too!) They’re selfish.

See, people are wrong to assume that because a woman hasn’t given birth, she then should know nothing about how to raise a child. But the truth is sometimes the women who choose not to, are way more prepared and qualified than the women who have been raising an entire herd. That’s the irony of life; those who should have children, don’t want any; and those who shouldn’t, want to have a dozen. And they do! Oh, do they…

The problem with this is, a lot of kids end up malnourished, uneducated, and a lot of them become troublemakers later in life due to the lack of adult intervention growing up. Imagine what would happen if all children in this country were left to raise themselves (which is kinda already happening). Kids aren’t mature enough to face the situations life throws at us. Women just keep getting pregnant with no preparation whatsoever. They ignore what it is, or should be like, taking care of another life. These are the women who can barely take care of themselves! It makes me so sad because the child always pays the consequences. It’s like the cycle that never ends.

Our over-populated world has gone mad, and part of the problem is parents who can’t even teach a child how to be respectful. A numerous amount of issues spring from misbehaviors and they ignore it. I’m so tired of it! It is time for all parents to take charge of their children’s lives. Whatever happened to manners and morals! Teach your children! They may act like they don’t care and they may tire you to death with their lack of interest in becoming a decent, civilized human being, but they’re listening.

So many just give up. A young mother I know allows her very young daughter to pretty much just do whatever she wants. This mother doesn’t believe in discipline, obviously, and has little or no involvement in her very young daughter’s life. Her daughter surfs the Web like an adult. She sleeps over her (bad influence) friend’s house all the time, often staying up until 4:00AM. She sets the rules; she tells the mom what to do, instead of being the other way around. She disrespects her teacher and might even be failing in school. There seems to be no boundaries. I’m sorry, but are you f**king kidding me? What does she really think is going to happen now? Or later? Who raises a middle-schooler that way? Oh, right; lots of you do. Guide that child in the right direction now before it’s too late, mom!

It’s not a lost cause when they reach “certain” age. Talk to your children. Devote some time to them. Your time and effort more than never pays off. I hated my mother’s sermons and her army-like ways of disciplining my siblings and I. But now I see the difference between her children (us) and other mothers’ — who were too lenient– and I finally get it. She gave everything for us and I’m very grateful for her.

I try to go about my business, ignoring the disturbing thought of lawless little girls and boys just running wild causing trouble. But ignoring that fact never works because I deeply care. I care more about the children because they’re the ones who suffer and it’s unnecessary suffering. We’ve seen enough already. Carelessness is making a mess of this world. Not generalizing, just restating what we see and read day by day on the news.

Parental control works. We the people need you to be their parents, not just their friends.

Awkwardly backwardly senseless US laws

Let me get this straight: in the United States, a person must be a citizen in order to receive certain exclusive benefits (such as some scholarships, voting rights, and be able to work for the federal government); yet, in order to join the army and fight in a war—to defend this “liberty for all”—a person needs to be no more than just a resident?

Also, a person must be 21 years old in order to legally buy and drink alcoholic drinks, but the legal age to join the army is 18? (I’m sure they would’ve lowered that one to 15 years of age if they could!)

Yeah, I got it. It makes perrrrfect sense…moving backwardI think it is laughable, a perfect example of just how backward and senseless US laws are. Always so convenient for the government, though! It’s time to move forward with common sense laws.

What happens when your family finds out you work from home?

The problem with being a freelancer/independent contractor/small business owner/writer, or doing anything contrary to popular belief of what a paying job should be, is that people think you’re on this eternal vacation and therefore have plenty of time to spare! That you can interrupt your day to come to their aide at anytime because what you do is not as “important” as their 9 to 5 job.

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They’ll get it one day.

The problem with finding work through LinkedIn

Sometimes I wonder about career-oriented social sites like LinkedIn, supposed to put your foot on the door and expose you to hundreds of potential clients all at once. I know it’s worked out great for some. For others, not so much.

Funny story is, when I first applied for a job in Spain, they asked me to attach a picture to my CV.
I remember thinking how wrong it was because it wouldn’t allow everyone to have a fair chance. I said, well, this is either going to go really, really well or really, really bad. Will my appearance influence their decision? It really leaves room for discrimination.

Many other countries use this hiring procedure, too, and I just don’t think it’s just. Unless it is a modeling job where making sure you fit their desired image is imperative, then fair enough. We humans tend to jump to conclusions based on looks, when we know nothing about the other person, no matter how many times we’re told not to judge a book by its cover. So, a picture on an employment resume plays a part in the elimination (or selection?) process.

Similarly, applying for jobs through LinkedIn may not always work in your favor when you have a good-looking picture up. Being young (and yes, attractive) leaves so much room for discrimination. Shouldn’t it be the opposite?! I guess some female HR’s feel threatened and male HR’s think…I don’t even know what men think anymore. But I know it’s true because I’m living proof! I’ve been ignored.

I used to have better luck in the “paper era,” before we were all able to Google people’s whole lives! A lot more people were interested in my skills than my ethnicity. But now its like you need to be online or they freak out or don’t get back if you don’t “exist.” (I do that for reviews on Yelp! Oops.) If you don’t have a profile, don’t worry; somebody somewhere will create one for you. They’ll put you on the map without your concern. It has gotten THAT bad.

I’m a translator and so I could constantly need clients from all borders, but maybe some have turned around after they looked me up online and realized that I’m one multi-talented, feisty liberal who is starving for success and won’t work for peanuts? :D I know what I’m doing online and have no regrets.

If someone really is interested in finding work through LinkedIn, Twitter or whatever, I suggest posting a picture where they look old(er) and ugly! Maybe then and only then their skills will match.

The best way to live life

Everyone seems to always have an opinion about the things that don’t concern them. (Sometimes even I am guilty.) Some people want to dictate your life and put you down while at it. Even when you’re doing extremely well they don’t know how to be happy for you. And perhaps that is the problem; jealousy.

For instance, when I moved out of Philadelphia to go to a smaller town, but closer to a bigger city (New York), instead of being happy for me, a family member gave me their unsolicited opinion about my new residence. They could’ve said something along the line of, “Well, you’re quite the adventurer. I hope it works out for you.” Instead — in a seemingly sarcastic, antagonist tone — they said, “Why did you even move there?” Emphasizing perhaps that they would’ve chosen a different place. Well, too bad! This is what I chose and this is what makes me happy right now, I thought.

This invasion, as I see it, prompted me to rethink my relationship to these people, but most importantly it made me think about who really needs to be happy for you in order for you to really be happy in life. You!

So, the point is, as long as YOU are happy with your decisions, you’re GOOD to go! You’re on the right track. Don’t conform to everyone else’s pathetic low standards…or you’ll be quite pathetic, too. Climb mountains, swim seas, or skydive if that is what your heart desires! Cliche, but life can be so short. Go with what makes you happy and screw what everyone else thinks! Go on!

To women, with love

To mark International Women’s Day, the UN has launched “One Woman”—an awesome song about joining forces to improve the life of women around the world and protect their rights and gender equality.

We still have a long way to go, but times are changing. It’s evident. And just today I was thinking how great the last two years have been for women, relatively. Together we’ve achieved a lot of things, such as changes in the health care system (against all odds!) and the implementation of new laws that protect women from abuse.

I am so proud of the women who fight for their rights like lionesses; for those who care for other women. I’m proud of the UN for fighting for us. Proud of all the men who genuinely care!

We’ll always have something to fight for. But hopefully maybe in the near future this whole ridiculousness will be a thing of the past. For now, ¡que vivan las mujeres! Keep shining, ladies.

See Can’t Hold Us Down

Rihanna’s message to girls around the world

“If your boyfriend beats you; honey, that is love!”

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This woman has ZERO respect for herself. How can anyone show respect for her? Let me tell you what, celebrities; you’re not responsible for others’ kids’ behavior. Just like us, “ordinary” folks, you have no responsibility over other people’s actions. But, let me break it down for you: when you are at that level, with the ridiculous (mostly undeserved) power you have as a star, you kinda do have a responsibility with society. And if you think you don’t, then you should question your morals and your existence. [Mindless] people want to be you! That’s inevitable.

So, this girl, Rihanna, she’s old enough to know the difference. What is she thinking? If she’s doing this for publicity, then she’s really f*cked in the head. Such a beautiful girl… Too bad her looks don’t match her brain! (if she even has one!) Guess they’re made for each other after all.

I am obviously writing this because I’m against domestic violence — or any kind of violence, really. Yet, I can’t help but wish Chris Brown beats the crap out of her again so she can see what the hell she’s doing and what a disgrace she is to all domestic violence victims around the globe. Better yet, I wish for all parents around the world to teach their little girls and boys what a fantasy life it is these people live, that we shall not imitate. That way we can maybe, just maybe, stop caring for stupid celebrities like her (who we wish we could save) for once and for all.