When it comes to marriage, my point is very straightforward: I don’t believe in it. With the world being a little too crazy nowadays and all, I have a hard time understanding why people still do it. When I was a little girl, I used to dream of that big day when I walked down the isle with a beautiful white dress. They make it look like such a fairytale in movies that you just can’t help yourself. In fact, there was still a point in my adult life when I wanted to get married one day; now, not so much. OK–maybe I should say I would do it just so that I can get to wear a fancy wedding dress one day. Don’t you know it’s all about the dress for some of us girls? What about love? Well, love can only be felt with the heart — not with a marriage license!
Marriage doesn’t guarantee you happiness. People have got it all wrong from the start. It doesn’t mean your life together will now be blessed and you’ll live happily ever after. (Here’s hoping you do though!). That’s a naïve mentality, in my opinion. I’ve been living with my boyfriend for five years. We are not married. We’re not even engaged! But we are extremely happy that way. We are happier than any long-time married couples I know. In fact, I’m afraid that if he ever proposes, things won’t be the same anymore because the human heart doesn’t like to feel chained. It doesn’t have anything to do with a romance-deficiency from my part — not at all. I just don’t see it as a necessity for our relationship to survive.
Friends and my big Latina family ask all the time when we’re going to get engaged. I try to ignore them. Eliminating that kind of “social stressor” is vital for any couple to live a happy life together. You can’t let others dictate what you should and shouldn’t do. If you get engaged — or married — only because your family thinks you should, then you’re off to a bad start. Society will always try to push you to the edge, but it doesn’t mean you have to act upon it. Getting engaged doesn’t always change things. But, through my own personal experience and through some friends’, there’s a big chance that things will change for the worst. Um… I think I’ll leave things the way they are for now.
For people getting married a second time after the first didn’t work out: I guess it is understandable. We all hope and seek for a second chance. But a THIRD? (and so forth) I don’t know if they should be given credit for being so “brave” or if they should be given the Dumb Ass Award!
Share your thoughts: Do you believe in marriage?